It's so easy to get caught up in another person's success. With social media always giving you a glimpse into the success of someone else's life, seeing your friends and family members succeed while you feel like you're stagnant can be a bit depressing. We've all been there before and I've been there too many times to count. What I've learned is that the times that I feel like this is when I haven't been staying in my own lane. When I stay in my lane, I rarely feel like I have to compete with others. I live life at my own pace and I don't allow the success of others to fuel my desires. When I stay in my own lane, I allow my passion to fuel my desires.
Stay In Yo' Lane
Staying in your own lane is my favorite way of saying "mind your business". This little rule was always told to me as a child and while I thought it was my mother's way of telling me I was too young to be in hers, I now see it's so much deeper than that. Staying in your lane keeps you from focusing on the lives of others. While it's great to know what's going on in the world and with people around you, it shouldn't consume you. I had to realize that my use of social media was causing me to veer out of my own lane. I would get so caught up in the lives of other people, that I was loosing focus of my own.
I know staying in your own lane may be a difficult task especially if you use social media as a business tool for marketing and business growth. What I like to do to keep me from getting caught up in the action of social media is giving myself a hard time limit. With a time limit, I can stay focused to handle the important things at hand (i.e. uploading photos, liking a few photos on my timeline, and checking my insights). It also gives me less time to get sucked up in my explore page or visualize myself in someone else's place of success (I still have a very active imagination).
Ultimately, minding your own business will give you the drive to compete with yourself. If you have no outside people to measure against, your personal drive will tell you a lot about yourself. If your passion doesn't push you to work harder than you did yesterday, then maybe it isn't your passion. There should be no reason why you allow other people's achievements to be your measures of success. When you allow other people's growth and affluence to add fuel to your fire, then you open yourself to being envious of others if you don't meet their mark, and you'll also find yourself looking at new people that join your industry as competition and not as potential friends, business partners, or mentors. You do yourself a huge disservice if you get to this point.
To sum it all up in a nutshell, you win more in life and in business if you march to the beat of your own drum. Do what makes YOU happy by trusting your knowledge and your creativity. You'll be happier succeeding in your own lane and your craft will come across more authentic to viewers and consumers.
Njeri is a lifestyle blogger with a focus in all things beauty and fashion. Her expertise also includes event corresponding, brand consulting, and encouraging people to find happiness by living their truths.