Sometimes life can be a very weird, confusing and scary place but these are the moments to embrace. These feelings or emotions are a great way that life tells you that it's time for you to move on from what's comfortable and safe. It's time for you to jump into the unknown but you don't have to do it alone. We can do it together, here's how:
Stop Trying To Avoid Discomfort
This is something that I'm constantly doing, I try to figure out life without going through the motions or feeling any "growing pains". The bittersweet lesson in this is that there are so many lessons that have to be learned through experience. Sometimes living through the pain of a struggle is extrememly difficult or uncomfortable but this is what develops character. This is what takes you from being average to being a super hero; one who helps others in a time of need.
It's Not A Set Back If You Learn From It
When a plan doesn't work the way we have envisioned it, we automatically assume it's a failure, but it's not. There are lessons in every single moment we experience in this life and it's up to you to find the lesson. Stop looking at flaws and shortcomings as failures and look at it as an opportunity to learn. I had a conversation with a friend the other day who told me that her life was "a wreck" and she had such a huge "dilemma" when it came to a life changing job decision for her. She was overwhelmed by the obstacles that she was facing and allowed her confusion to take control and jade her perspective. After a moment or two of me asking a few questions challenged this perspective, she realized that she was missing the point of the whole process which was to learn from it. Once you look at life's difficulties and setbacks as a learning opportunity you'll learn how to tackle mountains with an excitement and wiggle out of tight situations with ease.
Think Positive On Purpose
It is so easy to allow our negative thoughts to consume us. You don't have to fight hard for dark and hopeless thoughts to come, negativity will easily navigate its way into your mind. This is where your inner fighter has to get a little work out. When you feel that dark fog coming on, challenge yourself to fight it out. Speak loudly and audibly when telling those thoughts to leave you. It may seem a little weird at first but you have to take thinking positively on purpose, seriously. When you allow fears and thoughts of failure to remain bottled up inside of you, it will eat away at your joy and happiness. Speak to the atmosphere around you, you have the power to change it.
Communication Is A Key
Life's challenges aren't always meant for you to walk alone. Having a friend or an accountability partner is what's necessary to get through certain moments in your life. Communication is not only great for helping others to understand you, it's a great tool to help you. to understand yourself. Have you ever been in a situation where you just needed to talk it out before you felt relief or got an epiphany of what was going on? I'm sure you have! It's happened to all of us but that is why communication is so important. The gift of being able to articulate and understand happiness, sadness, anger, or any other emotion is one that we constantly take for granted. Communication is a key that will unlock a world of understanding and growth if you allow it.
Life gets tough but it's not all bad. With the right tools and positive thinking, you'll be on track to handling any tough obstacles that show up during your journey of life. With a positive lens on life, you'll understand that life isn't THAT bad..sometimes.
Njeri is a lifestyle blogger with a focus in all things beauty and fashion. Her expertise also includes event corresponding, brand consulting, and encouraging people to find happiness by living their truths.