We all have dreams and aspirations but sometimes we just need to challenge ourselves to do something outside our comfort zone. This is how I overcame my fears and broke the insane cycle that most working adults fall into...
As a child, I always dreamt that I wouldn’t be like some adults. I wouldn’t end up working a dead end job, miserable, and stuck in a place where I was just paying bills and not enjoying life. So, I finished high school, attended college and graduated with a B.S. in Business Management so I could get a job I truly enjoyed. Let’s fast forward to five years after I graduated college, I found myself not just struggling to find a job that paid well; I was also struggling to find a job that made me happy. For five years, I obtained jobs that just paid the bills. Every Monday morning, I longed for the weekend to come and when it came, I begged for it to stay. My work week consisted of a mundane routine: wake up, eat breakfast, go to work, eat lunch, go back to work, go home, eat dinner, bedtime. I didn’t notice it at first but my life was slowly conforming to reflect the exact same person I said I would never be like. This vicious monotonous cycle was going to drive me to the brink of insanity and I knew I needed a change.
What kind of change did I need? I had no idea. I knew I wanted to experience more of what life had to offer me. So, I sat down and asked myself “What do I need to change in order to be happy”. For me, I had the following items on my list:
After the completion of my list, I thought about the pros and cons of each item. Were the things listed REALLY going to bring excitement to my life? If there were more pros than cons (and there were) then I knew I needed to commit to that change. I sat my husband down and told him how I felt and to my surprise, he encouraged it! That night, I sat in front of the computer and searched for the most exciting free event I could find and once I found it, I put it in my calendar.
When the day of the event came, I was nervous. This was going to be my first adventure and first BIG step to breaking the repetition of my week. I was scared, tense, and unsure if this is what I should do. My uneasiness got so intense that I told myself that I was just going to head home, eat dinner and go to bed. That’s when I realized I was allowing fear to win. Fear is such an ugly emotion that can make life a scary place and if you allow it to control you, you will never find TRUE happiness with the life God has given you. Instead of giving up, I knew I had to be real with myself. I had to find out what was making me fearful so I took out a pen and paper and wrote what came to mind:
After encouraging myself and taking control of the fear, I attended the event and had an AMAZING time! That evening marked the first night my weekly routine would change forever. I enjoyed myself, I met new people, and I was super proud of myself for trying something new! I have so much living to do and I plan to do it! I’m on a journey to becoming that life loving person that I dreamt of as a child.
If you find yourself in a monotonous cycle, feel free to use the steps I used to push myself out of my comfort zone. Let me know if it works for you!
Njeri is a lifestyle blogger with a focus in all things beauty and fashion. Her expertise also includes event corresponding, brand consulting, and encouraging people to find happiness by living their truths.