Let's face it, we're in the era where social media reigns. There are so many social media models, "yogies", and fitness gurus, I can't keep track and for the ones I can keep track of, they always have the BEST bodies. For someone (like myself) who isn't in the best shape, it can be a bit discouraging to constantly see amazingly fit and toned bodies up and down my timeline. I can barely keep track of my calories and I'm not about to kill myself in the gym to have an aesthetically pleasing body either. By no means am I where I want to be weight wise but I definitely believe that everyone should love themselves through the process and here's how....
I know that you've heard the term body positivity before and if you haven't, I'm slightly concerned that you've been living under a rock. For those of you who don't know what it is, body positivity is a movement that was created for people to develop positive attitudes towards the acceptance of their own bodies as well as others, with the goal of improving one's overall mental and physical health.
1. STOP FOLLOWING PEOPLE WHO MAKE YOU FEEL "LESS THAN"
I know that we all have our goals and aspirations but constantly following people who make you feel like you aren't good enough or make you feel like you have to take drastic measures in order to improve yourself, isn't a good idea. When you are overly exposed to body goals that don't encourage you in a healthy way, it can cause for you to make some unhealthy decisions about your own body.
2. A SMALL BODY FRAME DOESN'T EQUAL BEAUTY
This is a stage that I have to constantly remind myself about. I have always been a petite girl. In high school, I wore a 00, in college, I wore a junior's size 5, and now I'm in my late twenties and rocking a women's size 10. Watching my weight constantly climb over the years has definitely made me feel like my beauty diminished with each pound that has been added but I was so wrong! I'm just as stunning as I was then, if not more(because thick is in, honey!). Just because you aren't a size zero or you have a wide nose, or you have whatever troubles you, that doesn't make you less beautiful.
3. FAKE IT 'TIL YOU MAKE IT
Even if you don't feel like a million bucks, fake it until you make it! There are times I feel so discouraged when I wake up but I refuse to allow that to dictate the flow of my day. Remember to treat yourself like the queen you are. Head to a spa, book a vacation, hang out with some friends, do your makeup! I always feel like a queen when I give myself a little TLC. I firmly believe that there is nothing a little mascara and a bright smile can't fix.
4. LOVE YOURSELF BEFORE YOU ALLOW OTHERS TO LOVE YOU
You set the bar for what you allow others to give you. If you don't love yourself properly, you will allow others to love you the way they think they should love you. Don't give anyone the authority to love you less than what you deserve but you have to be the example. You have to set the bar high for yourself and for the others that are in your life.
5. FACE YOUR FEARS
What makes you feel like you aren't good enough? For me, I hate it when my stomach rolls are photographed. My stomach rolls make me feel really self conscious and I usually delete those photos without a second thought. My fear is that people will draw attention to what I consider my biggest flaw. But when I think about life and all that I want out of it, I can't be a person who is controlled by fear. I don't want to be a picture perfect queen because I'm far from perfect and I don't want to reflect my self as such. So, I push myself to face my fears and I post those photos publicly. You know what happens? I usually get a lot of love and encouragement from you guys. Fear is a limiting flaw that won't take you far in life - don't be one who is controlled by your fears of what others may think.
Njeri is a lifestyle blogger with a focus in all things beauty and fashion. Her expertise also includes event corresponding, brand consulting, and encouraging people to find happiness by living their truths.