Have you ever tried to experiment and do something that makes you happy and then someone comes and pisses on your day? Yeah, that happened to me today.
So this past weekend, I decided to do something brave and I changed my hair color. Not a cute "Oh, I highlighted my hair and now I'm a new woman" type of color. I DRAMATICALLY changed my hair color. I went from Rihanna dark brown to Rihanna bright burgundy...so it's safe to say that this change came as a shock to most people who know me. I just felt like was time for me to start living my wildest hair dreams before I got too old (I'm 27 btw)! For years I've always been the girl who just wanted people to like me. I wanted people to love and respect me for all the wonderfulness I have on the inside but I was also afraid that my "wonderfulness" may be weird to them so I stuffed it away and became a gray bowl of generic mush. One day something just clicked on the inside and I made the choice to live in a way that made me happy and it was then that I felt much better about the direction my life was going.
Off The Rabbit Trail...
Ok, I know I kind of went off on a rabbit trail so let me bring it back, my hair. I wanted to do something drastic, for myself. I didn't want to care about what others thought of me. That day, after work, I went to the hair store and bought RED hair and installed 6 packs of twists (see above picture for visual). After I completed the install, I felt bad to the bone. The color just made me feel like Lil Kim in her "No Matter What They Say" music video. If you've never seen that video, I'll sum it up in one word; Spicy. But we all know, when you're home in your safe haven any and everything feels so right. The REAL test comes when you step foot out that door.
I Felt Defeated...
Now, fast forward to today, Monday and I'm at work. I know my hair is a tad bit "loud" (ha, another rihanna reference...I'm sorry) for the workplace but I work in an office that has no restrictions on hair color (thank God). Anywho, on this particular Monday, the first person who comes to talk to me stops dead in their tracks and said "Whoa! Red hair? What's up with that?" in such a ill-mannered way. I mean, I could understand if they were joking and then followed it up with a "but it looks nice on you" but I didn't get that. All I got was her oddly staring at me as if I had 4 heads that all rocked the same long red twists. I smiled sheepishly and brushed off the comment and addressed the business at hand but her comment constantly replayed over and over in my mind to the point I was really thinking about getting rid of my red twists.
Wait A Minute!!!
I literally had to sit myself down to have a pep talk! I had to remember that my co-worker is NOT the reason I got my hair done nor did she pay for me to get it done, so why was I allowing her comment to affect me so deeply? Now THAT made me feel really stupid. I had allowed someone's negative reaction to knock me off my game. That's a huge no-no. After my mini conference, I pulled myself up by my bootstraps and I got myself together. Since I'm a fashion lover, I have to remember that everyone is not going to love or agree with what I choose to do...AND THAT'S OKAY!! They are entitled to their opinion just as I'm entitled to mine. At the end of the day, I KNOW I look like a million bucks *insert to snaps*. Now, when I walk past my co-worker's desk and I feel her eyeballing my long fiery colored locks, I give her an exaggerated hair flip and wink because I feel fabulous.
Words of Wisdom:
Fashionistas, as I say so many times beauty really does begin with feeling fabulous in your own skin! YOU have to feel beautiful before you can accept anyone else's compliments (or complaints). It literally only takes one negative comment to ruin your day...if you allow it to. Don't let other's negativity or disapproval of your fashion choices rain on your parade. There will ALWAYS be someone who will think of your choices as stupid, ugly, worthless, etc. But you have to remember, that's their unwanted and pointless opinion and you can tell them to keep it.
What drastic changes have you made lately? What changes are you hesitant on making?
Njeri is a lifestyle blogger with a focus in all things beauty and fashion. Her expertise also includes event corresponding, brand consulting, and encouraging people to find happiness by living their truths.